Pic of the Week
Coming together over a meal. It's been done for centuries and will be done for many more. The history of eating together is interesting. This pic is of my family, my “kids” partners, and friends having dinner together before we went into lockdown this week. Our go-to place for a Friday night family dinner is Vinnies in Mt Eliza. Tony and his family are amazing hosts. Tony is always quick for a handshake, a hug, and the occasional shots shout at the end of your meal if there is a special occasion. The environment supports performance and for our family, Tony and his team create an environment that allows us to relax, connect and be family. Where do you go, and are made to feel special, to feel like you are a guest, welcomed the moment you arrive with warmth, and waved goodbye with a heartfelt thanks (and a shot of Ouzo)?
Here are the top three things that have made a difference in my week.
They might also be useful for you, or not.
1) Something I’m back doing...
After a period of being a bit slack with the swimming, I’ve started back this week. The bay is such a beautiful place to swim, always changing in conditions. One day it's a mirror, where you watch the water drip from your hand as it moves forward for the next stroke, hit the water, and ripple out. The next day it's choppy, where every 5th breath results in a mouthful of water. Often I close my eyes and swim for 5min (any longer I always end miles of course) just enjoying the rhythm of my breath and the sound of the exhale in the water. One of the most meditative moments I experience in the week. The benefits of swimming and our history with swimming are covered in a new book by Bonnie Tsui called “Why we swim”. Her interview with Rich Roll was a great summary.
For me, swimming always starts with the “Can I be bothered”, “do I really want to get cold”, or “maybe just a quick swim”. Inevitably I get in, get used to the cold (2min), find my rhythm (5min), get into a meditative state (8min), decide to swim further than the “just a quick swim” distance (10min) before returning back to the boat ramp 1.5km and 30min later feeling invigorated, calm, loose, pleased I got in, and ready to tackle the day. Sometimes I also find myself doing it at the end of the day rather than heading home after a big day for a glass of wine, the swim helps clear the tension from the day.
2) An idea I’m pondering...
This came up recently in a conversation with a mate. The idea of not resisting, not pulling against the force but letting go. You see in kiteboarding if the kite starts to pull away or lose control, the worst thing you can do is pull on the control bar as it gives more power to the kite. Rather you let go of the bar and instantly the kite depowers. Often pulling against the undesired force, emotion or situation results in it gaining more power over you. Instead, I wonder if you were to try letting go. How you do that in life I’m not sure I’ve got the answer yet (in fact I’m sure I haven't) as I’m more a pull against the force than a let-go kind of guy. What about you? Where in your life are you resisting, pulling against rather than releasing, and letting go?
3) My favorite place to wash my car this week...
There is something about a clean car and the process of cleaning it that I love. I know crazy right, but it's true, the process of detailing a car and bringing it back to its shiny state I find almost therapeutic. From the wash, shammies, wax, window clean, vac (where do those French fries come from), interior clean, wheel clean, and of course the icing on the cake, the tire black, it’s an art form. To speed things up I sometimes use the best self car wash I’ve ever come across. Pronto Car wash in Mornington is awesome. It’s always clean and tidy, you can tap with your card instead of feeding coins in, and in 18min and $10 later my car is immaculate on the outside. There is heaps of research on the benefits of cleaning including this one on cars. Where does your life need a cleanup today?
P.s. The quote of the week is...
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.” Joseph Campbell
I would love your feedback on what had an impact on you and the lesson in it, the moral of the story, or the learning you would share.
Have a ripper finish to your week.
Cheers Dr. Ben
Dr. Ben Carvosso
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